So many of us focus and hold on to the pain others cause us. I have been there so many times. The finger is constantly pointed at the ones who hurt us. We want so badly for them to pay for their mistakes but at the same time, we won’t them to change for the better. It is wrong for us to wish them harm because we definitely can’t judge others because we also make mistakes. It is not our place to punish them. They have to answer to God; not us. Sometimes, the pain caused to us by others hurts so bad that we will want to wish them all the harm in the world. Yes, pain goes that deep at times. From my own experiences, I will tell you that it is best to allow God to handle those who hurt you. Don’t ever miss out on your blessings because you are desiring curses upon them. And don’t ever indulge in revenge – the type where you go out and do the same thing to them as they did to you. If you choose to do this, then why would you even waste an inch of your time indulging in pointing a half of a finger when you are now doing the same? And what you do to that person is also a seed that you are sowing. The Bible tells us, “Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: ‘It is mine to avenge; I will repay,’ says the Lord” (Romans 12:19 NIV). Don’t pray that something bad happens to them but pray blessings in their life. Yes, it is very difficult to do this when your heart has been shattered into pieces but it is what God wants us to do. And God will help you through it all when you allow Him to. As bad as it feels, sow a seed of respect and kindness. No matter how hard you cry, sow a seed of respect and kindness. No matter how it seems like joy will never come, sow a seed of respect and kindness. It will come back to you. This I do know. God is the BEST HEALER when it comes to pain, along with TIME. “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds” (Psalm 147:3 NIV). Be Blessed. –S.L.M.