Human nature really has some demanding ways. We are constantly wanting the things we cannot have or wanting the things that we know are bad for us. This poses a challenge and what do many of us do? Yes, you said it. We go after the challenge. We chase what we know isn’t good for us. We lose sight of our good morals and values ending up in some really messed up situations. We exhaust ourselves. And we put our faith in challenges that were never meant for us. This causes us to lose hope and most of us fall into distress. Basically, we cause our own storms then we want to act out when the rain comes pouring down almost drowning us. We receive so many signs where the things we chase after is just wrong for us but we continue to indulge. The more we indulge, the more pain and disappointment we will receive. We can act like kids and blame John or Jane for the pain we feel but to keep it real – it is “us” who cause our own pain. In other words, we sometimes self-inflict pain upon ourselves. We know that the pot is on the stove. We see that the pot is smoking. Our hands can feel the heat. But human nature! We go and touch it anyway. And what happens? We get burned or scorched. We curse at the pot knowing that we KNEW it was hot. This is exactly what we do when we constantly want things we cannot have or the things that we know is bad for us. Wanting something we cannot have causes us to live in consistent disappointment. We chase and chase knowing deep down we will never catch it. And we look like fools chasing after it. Wanting the things that are bad for us does nothing but tear us down and drain us emotionally, physically, spiritually and sometimes, financially. It’s almost like we are drinking poison knowing that it is going to kill us. And again, we look like fools indulging in anything that is bad for us. The best challenge we can chase after is becoming a better version of ourselves each day. When we become better, our lives get better and we can deal with whatever life brings better. In order to become a better version of ourselves, we must chase after God. He can be caught and He is good to us and for us. God is the Author of “Being Better.” He can bring all of the RIGHT people and things into our lives. God’s Word reminds us, “Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need” (Matthew 6:33 NLT). Be Blessed. –S.L.M.
So many of us focus and hold on to the pain others cause us. I have been there so many times. The finger is constantly pointed at the ones who hurt us. We want so badly for them to pay for their mistakes but at the same time, we won’t them to change for the better. It is wrong for us to wish them harm because we definitely can’t judge others because we also make mistakes. It is not our place to punish them. They have to answer to God; not us. Sometimes, the pain caused to us by others hurts so bad that we will want to wish them all the harm in the world. Yes, pain goes that deep at times. From my own experiences, I will tell you that it is best to allow God to handle those who hurt you. Don’t ever miss out on your blessings because you are desiring curses upon them. And don’t ever indulge in revenge – the type where you go out and do the same thing to them as they did to you. If you choose to do this, then why would you even waste an inch of your time indulging in pointing a half of a finger when you are now doing the same? And what you do to that person is also a seed that you are sowing. The Bible tells us, “Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: ‘It is mine to avenge; I will repay,’ says the Lord” (Romans 12:19 NIV). Don’t pray that something bad happens to them but pray blessings in their life. Yes, it is very difficult to do this when your heart has been shattered into pieces but it is what God wants us to do. And God will help you through it all when you allow Him to. As bad as it feels, sow a seed of respect and kindness. No matter how hard you cry, sow a seed of respect and kindness. No matter how it seems like joy will never come, sow a seed of respect and kindness. It will come back to you. This I do know. God is the BEST HEALER when it comes to pain, along with TIME. “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds” (Psalm 147:3 NIV). Be Blessed. –S.L.M.
I had encountered a painful heartbreak awhile back. It ripped me to pieces. Many laughed at me saying I got what I deserved. Others laughed and mocked because they simply thought it was funny. Several stopped speaking to me. Even I didn’t want to speak to anyone or talk to anyone. See, pain can work two ways – for the bad and for the good. Of course, the devil uses it for bad. He uses pain to pull you into depression, shame, guilt and regret. But the Lord uses pain to build you up higher than you have ever been before. He uses pain to open your eyes and for you to welcome His wisdom and strength. When God allows pain to break you, He gets the opportunity to rebuild you in Him. When you are rebuilt in His Love, Comfort and Strength, you will stand stronger than you have ever stood before. That is what God did to me and I thank Him for it. Because of that breaking, I am stronger and wiser. And I still have a heart that feels no shame and loves even more. That pain was a mountain that I thought couldn’t be climbed but I viewed that in my own strength, which failed. With God, any mountain can be climbed. I don’t worry about who is against me because God loves me. He is for me. “I will lead the blind by ways they have not known, along unfamiliar paths I will guide them; I will turn the darkness into light before them and make the rough places smooth. These are the things I will do; I will not forsake them” (Isaiah 42:15 NIV). Be Blessed. -S.L.M.