It’s really sad to know that many people will settle for LESS when their value is MORE. They don’t realize who they are nor who they belong to. When one recognizes who he/she is in the Lord, settling for LESS is never an option. What does settling for LESS mean? It means “down” days outweighing “up” days. It means feeling or thinking that you can’t do any better. It means settling for a “piece” when you can have a “whole” of something better. Settling for LESS means you opt in to get little when God wants to give you more. The BEST thing that I could have ever learned is KNOWING WHO I AM IN THE LORD. The BEST thing you can learn is KNOW WHO YOU ARE IN THE LORD. God says we are freed from oppression (Psalms 107:2). God says we are heirs to all creation (Romans 8:16-17). God says we are protected by Him (Isaiah 46:4). God says we are a light unto the world (Matthew 5:14). God says that we can win with God (Romans 8:37). When you know who you are, you won’t settle for anything less than how God defines you.  Be Blessed. – S.L.M.


Any time you allow yourself to “hate” a person, you are giving that individual power over you. In many cases, hate is derived out of envy, jealousy, bitterness or unforgiveness. Hate is a strong word. It is a strong emotion. Your heart is a home; both hate and love cannot live there. Eventually, something will go wrong. Conflict will start and the home will be torn apart. God doesn’t want us to hate anybody but to love. He didn’t say we had to trust others or follow them. He didn’t say that we had to be a fool for others, either. But He did say for us to love them. I had to learn this the hard way in life. I had much bitterness towards others in the past and for what? It did me no good. I was feeling miserable and the people I had bitterness towards was living their life and could care less how I felt. The truth is – most of the people you hold grudges against, won’t forgive or even hate, probably don’t even care. Their lives are still moving regardless of how you feel towards them. That is truth! I allowed that bitterness to take my joy away in the past so many times. It is not OK for you to allow others to steal your joy. It is not OK to hate others. Ephesians 4:31 NIV says, “Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.” Your negative emotions have a tendency to spill out and affect your family, friends and also your mental being. The best thing any of us can do is love others just as God loves us. Many of us do God wrong daily yet He still loves us. He wants His character to live in us. Hating others is only a mark against us that we are going to have to answer to when God sends His Son back. None of us are perfect. We all fail God daily. We all make mistakes. Yet, God still and will always love us. If it is someone today that you are having a hard time forgiving and are harboring hate towards, allow God to help you forgive. That is a burden He doesn’t want you to bear. Forgiving sets you free from all of that. Unforgiveness, hate and bitterness are heavy chains. When you hold on to these chains, they weigh you down. Release the chains. “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you” (Colossians 3:13 NIV). Be Blessed. –S.L.M.




Chasing after a woman or a man is a definitely NO-NO! First of all, a person who truly loves you will not even allow you to chase him or her. True love doesn’t have to be chased. When we chase people, it is more like we are trying to “force” them to love us. That forcing stuff honestly doesn’t work. Sometimes, when we force stuff, it has a tendency to pop loose or break apart. We should pursue God FIRST. When our pursuit is Him, we have no need to chase anyone or anything. We have no need to force anyone or anything. Pursuing God first allows everything else to fall into place. Some who know me are probably reading this and saying, “Who is she to talk about chasing people?” Well, allow me to answer. I have done the chasing before. So I honestly feel that I am highly qualified to speak on it. I know what chasing can do and where it can lead…and that is….to a whole lot of agony and disillusionment. If you are chasing right now, please stop and take a breath. Then, look up. That is where your TRUE LOVE is. As a matter fact, God’s love is all around you. Pursue it and watch how everything else falls into place. Take off your running shoes and hand them over to God! Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need” (Matthew 6:33 NLT). Be Blessed. -S.L.M.




I was talking to someone about the Super Bowl last night.  There were so much ruckus about many being for the Atlanta Falcons taking place among others. There was talk about no one really caring that much for Tom Brady and the New England Patriots. To keep it real, both are great teams. It doesn’t matter how some view Tom Brady. The fact is – the New England Patriots won. But many are still criticizing Tom Brady along with the entire team. Now let’s take this to the other side. Isn’t this the way some of us act when others seem to be better off than we are. Isn’t this the way we act because others appear to be “winning” in life but some of us feel like we are “stuck” or “losing” in life? We can be some selfish and jealous human beings at times. Tell the truth and shame the devil! Focus on persevering in your own life and do so with the Lord as Your Guide. Once you do, you will not have any precious time to be criticizing or pouring negative judgment on someone else’s perseverance in their life. If someone seems to have it all, be happy for them and know that you can have just as much or more if you do the same. Victory belongs to the Lord and those who operate with Him on their side will persevere to that victory. Be Blessed.  -S.L.M. “The horse is prepared for the day of battle, but the victory belongs to the LORD” (Proverbs 21:31).



Well, it’s February 1! I have been taking a break from writing on my WordPress blog but I am back with more stamina and wisdom! Many often associate Black History with the word, “slaves.” Why? Because this was a time where African American went through so much. They were labeled as slaves but they were freed. They invented many great things but did not receive much recognition for it all. But thank God – He paved a way for us all to be segregated! But look at many of us now – some of us are slaves to SIN. Let’s be real. Some of us are slaves to MONEY, SEX, JOBS and OTHER PEOPLE. Being a slave to these things take us through so much and most of it is not ever good. We do any and everything to please others but we get no recognition at all. I am not here to judge anyone but I do speak of what I know. Being a slave to all of this means that some of us are chained down or addicted to all of this. When it comes to these things, many of us will do any and everything to get it all. And when you are chained down by these things, nothing GOOD comes from it. We idolize “these things” and don’t focus on God. These things can give us pleasure for a short time but eventually, that pleasure ends. And then….misery or failure kicks in. Allow God to unlock the chains of those things that lead you down a path of misery and failure. Allow Him to free you from those things that weigh you down in life. Stop idolizing things or people who can never give you temporary pleasure. God gives permanent pleasure. Allow Him to set you free from the “bad things” so that you can bless you with the “good things.” “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery” (Galatians 5:1 NIV). Be Blessed. – S.L.M.