Many who find themselves parenting alone call themselves “single” parents. I have as well. But when you really look at this closely, you are not a “single” parent. God is with you always. The struggles you have in parenting doesn’t go unseen by God. It never does. He knows and sees it all. God knows how you are struggling with bills and at the same time, you want to take your children out to a movie or to get pizza. God hears you at night when you are crying wondering how you are going to send field trip money to school tomorrow but at the same time, you need gas in your vehicle to go to work. God knows how hurt you are knowing the other parent is not in your child’s life at all helping out like they should. God knows. This is a time where you need to reach out to God even more. Depend on Him for EVERYTHING. He will never fail you. Pray over your children at night and in the morning. Pray for them during the day. Ask God to bring true Christians in your life that will help support and mentor to you and your children. God will do it. Some days, it may seem like He doesn’t hear because matters are getting worse in your household but He is listening and trust that He is working it out for your family. Tell God about the type of earthly help you need regarding your kids. Although He already knows, it is good to speak it out to Him.
You may find yourself getting all bent out of shape when the other parent is doing more for his/her other children and not yours. That is a mind trick of the enemy to keep you frustrated. Your priority is YOUR children. Do YOUR part with YOUR children and God will do the rest. How do you this? You do it by being the very best parent that you can be with all that you have. So many are caught up in doing the things that cost a lot of money but there are things to do that are free. Take them to park and run around with them….that is free. Have a picnic with them in the front yard or at the park……that is free. Take them to church so that they can learn about the TRUE FATHER….that is free. If your kids are older, trying cooking together…..that is free (hopefully, the food won’t cost a lot). Go for walks together…that is free. Listen to them when they need to talk…..that is free. There are many things that you can do with your children that doesn’t even spending a lot of money. And guess who is with you while you are doing all of this? GOD is with you so you are not alone nor are you a single parent. When the other parent has other children he/she is taking care of and not doing right by yours, I know it hurts. And God knows it, too. Allow God to deal with that other parent. Don’t indulge in envy, jealousy or anger because of it. These things are mind tricks brought on by the devil. These things will prevent you from being the best parent you can be towards your own children. Stay focused on your own without any desire to compete with others. When you stay focused on that and placed dependency in God, you will see better days. You will successfully endure on those bad and weary days because your faith is in God and not man.
As for as finances, I honestly despise when the state has to step in and make a man/woman take care of their children but if you have made every attempt to ask for help from that other parent regarding your children, ask God for guidance in the matter and these attempts keep failing….then perhaps, God is showing you that you must do what you have to do to get the help you need for your children. Some parents choose child support out of spite; others do it because they have no other choice. You and God know what your situation may be and if you seek Him for answers regarding what to do, He will give it to you. My heart goes out to all who are raising their kids on their own. Some have great help; others do not. And it gets trying. People who have no children may give great advice but until they actually walk in the shoes of someone who has children, they can’t honestly relate. I am the mother of five children and I am not married. I do have earthly support but not as much as I would like to have. But I am so thankful for God being in my life. Earthly support is great but GOD is so much greater. So, to the ones who are calling themselves “single” parents, do know that you are not alone. Tell God what you feel and what you desire, have faith that He will provide because He will. Keep Him first in all things and make sure that your children know about The Lord and His power. Many children are taught about so many things in regards to surviving in this life and sad to say, most of the time, God isn’t even included. So make sure that your children know about God. It doesn’t matter if children is raised up in a one-parent and two-parent household, they need to know about the TRUE FATHER. As I pray for all of you, keep me and my children in your prayers as well. Be Blessed.