LEARN TO SAY “NO”

Are you familiar with the days of you simply feeling drained and it seems like everyone is requesting something from you? You work on one thing, your phone rings and now you have another task to do. Then something unexpected happens and now there are three tasks sitting before you. This person wants you to do this but you have to do that. You feel stretched. You can’t be in three places at one time. You can’t pass out money like it grows on trees because it is doesn’t. You have bills here and there and kids to go along with that. So you think to yourself, “Does anybody really care?” As always, I hate to be a bearer of bad news but the truth is MANY DO NOT CARE. Many don’t take into consideration that you are not making thousands a week. Many don’t take into consideration that you have more than one child to take care of. All many will see is that “they” want your help and “they” want it right NOW. You barely get calls and text messages that says, “How are you? Do you need anything?” Nearly every phone and text is demanding something from you. You may find yourself very irritated and frustrated.

At this moment, you must realize that everyone is not considerate of your situation, whatever it may be. If this is taking place in your life, learn to set healthy boundaries. If you can’t do it, say NO. If you don’t feel like doing it, say NO. You orchestrate your time and if your time doesn’t align with someone else’s wants, do not stretch yourself in doing so. You will only tire yourself out. Just tell them NO. And you can do this in the nicest manner. Maybe it is something you can to later but for now, you can’t do it so TELL THEM SO. Thinning your finances for someone else is also something to take into consideration. If your bills are due, they are due… so pay them. Most of the time when others ask money from you, they are using it on something unnecessary anyways. Take care of YOUR BUSINESS first. And yes, they will talk about you. They are going to do that anyways. Don’t put yourself in a bind to please others. Yes it is good to help others but God doesn’t want us to be stupid. Some of the things that people are asking and expecting of you are the very things that they can do themselves.  Matthew 23:4 (NLT) tells us, “They tie up heavy, cumbersome loads and put them on other people’s shoulders, but they themselves are not willing to lift a finger to move them.” In other words, don’t stress yourself out helping those that can very well help themselves. Now if you choose to do so, that’s you but don’t complain when you are physically and mentally drained. What you allow will always continue. If this is an area you are dealing with today, start now by setting healthy boundaries when dealing with others. Be Blessed.

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