True healing takes time. Some of us lose sight of this. I even lost sight of this when encouraging others. What you may get over in a month, it may take another an entire year or more to get over it. Pain has a different effect on each one of us. I have come to despise when someone tells another person, “Oh, just let it go. Get over it already.” I feel that it is disrespectful to say that to ANYONE when you honestly don’t know what that person feels. Even if you have been in a similar situation, that person feels pain differently from you. How dare any of us say this to anybody without acknowledging how deep pain can travel? True healing comes from God. In order for healing to be complete, God has to have His hand in it. So telling someone to “get over it already” is basically rushing God. And we all know that God moves on His own time when dealing with each one of us. Everyone should be remindful of that. Life causes us to grieve over different situations in different ways. We really don’t know what another feels. So be careful when you are telling people just to “let it go already” because we don’t the extent of their pain. Some of us couldn’t even survive what another person is dealing with or have dealt with if the shoes were on our feet. So I, myself, stand in correction regarding this when dealing with encouraging others.
Most of us are quite aware of the phrase, “Let Go and Let God.” I have used it many of times in my writings. And yes this is definitely true. But where we go wrong at is not acknowledging that it takes time for some people to get to that point. That is where our prayers for others come in at. Instead of hearing someone vent and you responding with “You need to just let it go”, try responding with, “I am praying for you.” When we pray for others, God stirs that release up in their life. Healing is God thing. None of us can rush God. I can only imagine how many times a person who is experiencing pain wants to literally punch someone in the face when they tell them to “let it go.” Just keeping it real. If you are one who is dealing with something today and others are in your face pushing, “You should just let it go”, take a deep breath, grab a hold of God’s hand and tell them to let their pushiness go because God has you. If you are one that is constantly walking around telling others to “let it go” although you see it is best to – stop, recognize the power of God, pray for that person and let God do what He needs to do in that person’s life. Sometimes, our words can drive people further in distress without us realizing. It is better to pray for them and with them so that hurting people can experience true healing by the hands of a True Healer – GOD.
A man was praying for a wife and God lead Him to see a woman. This man watched this woman being broke down piece by piece. God allowed Him to see. The man watched this woman struggle so bad. Her tears touched the man’s soul. The man asked God, “Why are you allowing me to see such brokenness in a woman? I can’t stand this. It is painful to see. This can’t be the woman for me.” God told the man, “I am allowing her to go through the very worst so she will recognize the best.” As the man watched the woman, tears began to form in his eyes. His heart went out to her. He wanted to help her. His love for her developed immediately. The man looked at God and said, “She is beautiful and I don’t want to see her in pain anymore. God, please let me help her.” God told the man, “She is already yours. This will be your wife. I allowed you to see her pain first so that you will do everything possible to make sure she never sees this broken place again. I wanted you to see her beauty in the midst of her pain. Only my BEST can see that in others who are hurting. This woman is precious I my eyes and I have been watching over her.” The man looked at God and asked, “Father, can I have your permission to go to her right now?” And GOD looked at the BEST He had chosen and said, “Yes my son, you may go her.” Ladies that is what a true Boaz will do. He will ask God’s permission first before even pursuing you.
-Written by Stacy L. Montgomery
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Are you familiar with the days of you simply feeling drained and it seems like everyone is requesting something from you? You work on one thing, your phone rings and now you have another task to do. Then something unexpected happens and now there are three tasks sitting before you. This person wants you to do this but you have to do that. You feel stretched. You can’t be in three places at one time. You can’t pass out money like it grows on trees because it is doesn’t. You have bills here and there and kids to go along with that. So you think to yourself, “Does anybody really care?” As always, I hate to be a bearer of bad news but the truth is MANY DO NOT CARE. Many don’t take into consideration that you are not making thousands a week. Many don’t take into consideration that you have more than one child to take care of. All many will see is that “they” want your help and “they” want it right NOW. You barely get calls and text messages that says, “How are you? Do you need anything?” Nearly every phone and text is demanding something from you. You may find yourself very irritated and frustrated.
At this moment, you must realize that everyone is not considerate of your situation, whatever it may be. If this is taking place in your life, learn to set healthy boundaries. If you can’t do it, say NO. If you don’t feel like doing it, say NO. You orchestrate your time and if your time doesn’t align with someone else’s wants, do not stretch yourself in doing so. You will only tire yourself out. Just tell them NO. And you can do this in the nicest manner. Maybe it is something you can to later but for now, you can’t do it so TELL THEM SO. Thinning your finances for someone else is also something to take into consideration. If your bills are due, they are due… so pay them. Most of the time when others ask money from you, they are using it on something unnecessary anyways. Take care of YOUR BUSINESS first. And yes, they will talk about you. They are going to do that anyways. Don’t put yourself in a bind to please others. Yes it is good to help others but God doesn’t want us to be stupid. Some of the things that people are asking and expecting of you are the very things that they can do themselves. Matthew 23:4 (NLT) tells us, “They tie up heavy, cumbersome loads and put them on other people’s shoulders, but they themselves are not willing to lift a finger to move them.” In other words, don’t stress yourself out helping those that can very well help themselves. Now if you choose to do so, that’s you but don’t complain when you are physically and mentally drained. What you allow will always continue. If this is an area you are dealing with today, start now by setting healthy boundaries when dealing with others. Be Blessed.
Sometimes, the one who you had to leave will go on with their life and you may still be shattered into pieces. The person who still holds the key to your heart may now be in a new relationship, possibly heading to marriage. Or maybe the person is already married. You may be appalled at the fact that you were never good enough. You may feel tinged with jealousy and rage but deep down you know you can’t do anything about it. It is a rejection that literally punches big holes in your heart knowing you did all of the good you could only for it not to be enough. You feel like that person literally came like a thief in the night, stole your heart and left. It is at this point, that you need to place your ENTIRE HEART in the hands of God. You are in need of major reconstruction. When we are fooled by the wolves in sheep’s clothing, we lose sight of waiting for the person God has for us. We take in what is pleasing to the eye and then our ears listens willingly to the fake charm. Then our flesh gives in leaving us in a chaotic mess. We have allowed the wolf to rip us into pieces and now, the wolf has gone on with a smile on its’ face. You are left shattered. The reason you are feeling this way is because you haven’t let go of bitterness.
You must replace bitterness with grace and forgiveness. Harboring bitterness will only make you resentful and allow that other person to be in control of your feelings and actions. Grace and forgiveness releases you. You can’t get to that point alone so you will need God’s help. He can heal you and show you the path to take when it all hurts so badly. Turn to Him and cooperate with the grace God gives because you, yourself, know that God grants grace to you even though you may not deserve it. Jesus said in John 12:46,”I have come to into the worlds as light, so that no one who believes in me should stay in darkness.” Giving others that hurt you grace and forgiveness releases the shackles of bitterness from you. And just hold to God’s hand because He will lead you to the person that He has for you. You will then know why it didn’t work out with the person you thought you truly loved. Be Blessed. -S.L.M.
It is hard to step outside of your comfort zone in regards to anything when fear is present. You may be scared to leave a relationship or marriage because you have grown accustomed to it even if it is unhealthy for you. You may be scared to leave a job you have had for so long because you are use to that routine even if it is making you miserable each day. You may be scared to leave a wild lifestyle because you are so used to getting things in an easy manner and having lots of fun even though the lifestyle isn’t right. Fear can paralyze your growth in life and keep you in an unhealthy way of living…period. This unhealthy way of living is simply a prison. And Satan wants to keep you there. You become a prisoner of your own fears. Fear causes you to doubt good decisions that you could be making in life. Fear comes from Satan and can keep you from becoming who God wants you to be. Fear can cause you misery for many days of life. Fear can cloud your mind and produce negative thoughts. And this is Satan’s plan…..to keep you from growing the right way. Satan doesn’t want you to be happy or to prosper in life. But God wants the best for you. God gives what we need to overcome any fear. “For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind” (2 Timothy 1:7 KJV). Be Blessed. – S.L.M.
I am one lady who despises high heel shoes on her feet. I love them on everyone else but they are simply not for me. I just don’t like the way they feel, and they tripped me up a lot! Some say that high heels define sexiness…..well, that is one part of sexiness that Stacy Lynn will not get! I can be just as classy and stylish with some flats! I am reminded on today of the “high hills” that God gives me. When my strength is on low and life, with its disappointments, kind of trips me up a bit, I can rely on God’s strength to build me up to walk on my “high hills.” God enable me to face problems with confidence. When God gives me supernatural strength, I am walking on “high hills” with a stride that is orchestrated in His Power. On that note, I will walk on “high hills” in His Power while wearing my flats! “The Lord God is my strength; He will make my feet like deer’s feet, and He will make me walk on my high hills” (Habakkuk 3:19 NKJV). -S.L.M.