COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS

Take a look at the world….a really good look. There is so much comparing going on. People are stressed out from comparing their lives to the lives of others. This comparing leads us to competing with others.  We compare and compete with the next person over so many material things and even with our children and they, too, will end up doing the same thing. So many of us have this worldly mentality.  I know I have been there and I am not ashamed to admit it. We can’t even see the ditch we are about to fall in because we are chasing the world trying to keep up with what it offers or what somebody else has. I ask  myself, “When we reach our very elderly years and are sitting in the nursing homes or assisted living homes, will we still compare ourselves and compete with one another?” Will we be jealous of Dale or Nancy’s wheelchair because it looks better than ours? Will we get mad because Betty or Sam didn’t have to change their Depends on today but we had to change ours twice?  Will we become bitter because Mary and Paul can use their walkers but we have to be assisted by CNAs all day? That is something to think about. If we can’t get it right now, we are going to be some sad and pathetic sights if we live to see our elderly years. It is time that we start comparing ourselves to others and do the best we can with what we have and strive to do better for ourselves. Comparing ourselves to others will steal our joy and cause us to fall into competition. We must learn to be happy for one another. Don’t be jealous or envious. Jealousy and envy is what causes us to compare. Tom’s season might be now but rejoice with Tom because your season is on the way. And maybe Tom will rejoice with you. What God has for Jackie may not be the same as what He has for you. We are all unique in God’s eyes. It is important to be thankful and tend to what we have. Once we learn the value of what we have, God blesses us with more. Once we are blessed with more, many of us will have the opportunity to bless others. We must plant good seeds so good can come back to us. Life is too short to waste on comparing ourselves with others. We have work to do in our own lives dealing with our own selves. “Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else” (Galatians 6:4). – S.L.M.

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IN THE VALLEY

I come to encourage you, my brothers and sisters in Christ, that in whatever you go through, give God praise. Praise Him in the good times. Praise Him in the bad times. Always give Him praise. Always hold firmly to your faith in God. Some of us get so lost in the valleys of life. We become so discouraged. People leave our sides in the valley. It is dark in the valley. It is cold in the valley. We become blinded by fear in the valley. The valley can be trouble. Stop right where you are in the valley and call out to God. You can whisper His Name or scream out His Name. However you choose to call on Him, do so. He will meet you right where you are. He will come, take you by the Hand and lead you out of the valley to the mountaintop. On the way out, you will come across some scary things but never let go of God’s Hand. He will fight for you. Just stay in His care. As you walk with Him, you will begin to notice that you no longer feel lost. You will feel safe in His arms. You will begin to feel warm. And you will start to see light. God will take you higher and higher and before you know it, you will be at the mountaintop! And when you are led out of the valley, don’t forget about those who may still be in the valley. Testify to others about your experience. Your testimony will help another.

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MY TRUE BEAUTY IS “THICK” AFTER ALL!

There was a time I was so offended when I would get called “skinny.” I hated that term. People would always tell me, “Stacy, you are so tiny and you are never going to gain any weight.” Then the guys that I chose to date were all so fixated on “thick” women.  And men, you know what I am referring to when I say “thick” women! When a guy I dated would tell me that, I would become so offended that I started to get jealous and envious of these other women. I would actually go and buy stuff that had a lot of fat and protein in it to gain weight. I viewed “thickness” as true beauty. Thickness is what seemed to get admiration from others and I wanted it. If thickness got my guy’s attention, that is what I had planned to do was get thick! I would eat and eat but never gain weight. I even went so far as to go to the doctor and get vitamins to help me gain. I gained some weight but not much. I even tried herbal vitamins. I only gained a little weight. In other words, all of these methods didn’t get me to the “t” in the word, thick! The doctor told me I was a healthy size and to just let it go. I still didn’t listen. I wanted to be “thick” to please people, especially my guy. Well, those wake-up calls started coming. God began to deal with me on always listening to people. He began to deal with me on my failure to see what true beauty really was.

I went through situation after situation. And once God showed me what true beauty was, I felt like an idiot. He showed me that putting myself out there like that was so childish and immature. And it was actually unhealthy for me. God had spoken through me through a physician who told me I was healthy but I didn’t listen. God had shown me the various foods I was eating that thickness just wasn’t for me but I kept eating making myself sick. Then, God showed me in my encounters with several women who were thick that “thickness” doesn’t keep a man. A man will still do what he is going to do rather no matter what size you are. I could have slapped myself three times at this reality! Many may think this blog is crazy but I know that I am not the only one who has gone through this. Trying to please others will have you messed up for life! And that is exactly where I was…..in MESSED UP LAND. I was too old to be putting my body through such nonsense. When God started dealing with me, He showed me that true beauty wasn’t some lame word called “thickness” but it was in fearing Him.

God taught me that fearing Him was beautiful in itself. Fearing the Lord involves putting Him first in our lives. It involves acknowledging Him at all times regardless of any situation. It means knowing that He is worthy of all our praises. It means living this life to please Him in all that we say and do. True beauty isn’t about looks. It is about knowing the Power of God. It is about fearing the God. When I grasp a hold of this, I began to live it. God is my life. Fearing Him is my true beauty and it is THICK! And God admires it and His admiration is what matters most to me. “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised” (Proverbs 31:30 NIV). – S.L.M.

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FLEE FROM SEXUAL IMMORALITY! 

As women, some of us deal with desires regarding our body that seems uncontrollable. Some of us can’t even deal with smelling the scent of men cologne. Some of us can’t even deal with a handsome man touching us even if it is innocent. Some of us have it so bad that we will settle for anything as long as we can get our flesh pleased. Some of us wouldn’t even admit to this but go ahead and tell the truth and shame the devil. We will settle for being abused physically, verbally or emotionally as long as what a man is putting down in the bedroom is rocking our world. Some of us don’t even care if that pleasing last only ten minutes as long as it is pleasing to our flesh. Shame on any of us who think so worthless of ourselves! Allow me to keep it 100% real here. The best thing, ladies, you can put inside of you is GOD’S WORD. Yes, you may say it is easier said and done but the important thing that you are missing is that IT CAN BE DONE. Pouring God’s Word into yourself will kill the flesh daily. When you get that “bothered” feeling, pick up God’s Word and read it. You can even read devotions. Many of us are addicted to our cellphones anyway so make use of it by downloading devotional apps or reading the bible on your cellphone. That is what I do and it helps. Now me? I protect my eyes and my ears as well. I don’t like watching certain things on TV and I don’t like to listen to certain kinds of music. Now, there are many who can tolerate such things and still live a celibate lifestyle. But for me, I just don’t indulge in it.

When you make a vow to become celibate, many things are going to come against trying to tempt you to fall. This is why it is so important to get in God’s Word, read it, know it, and understand it. The knowledge of His Word brings about wisdom and also equips you with all that you need to stand against temptation. Many have SEX ON THE MEMBRANE. Don’t allow yourself to be included in that “MANY” number. Sex is one of the enemy’s greatest tools to cause destruction in your life because so much evil can be transmitted through it when two people are not married. God knows how you feel when you feel it. Draw near to Him and lock your legs in God’s Word. It is RIGHT to save yourself from evil desires. Stop testing the waters by sleeping around with different men because as long as you are operating out of the Will of God, you will not find one who will feed your spirit. If his sex is good, his behavior is going to be off….not by a little but by a long shot. And let’s be honest….the man who is for you is not going to be trying to mess your head up by pleasing you in the sheets. The right man will burn calories by doing the things that are pleasing to God rather than pleasing you in the sheets.

Start protecting your mind, your heart, body, soul and spirit. Stop longing to put things inside of you that will end up destroying you. Get those evil desires out of your head, away from your body and out of your life! Focus on putting God’s Word inside of you instead. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8 tells says, “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong or take advantage of a brother or sister. The Lord will punish all those who commit such sins, as we told you and warned you before. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, anyone who rejects this instruction does not reject a human being but God, the very God who gives you his Holy Spirit.”



HAVE YOU HAD YOUR HEART CHECKED LATELY?

After getting too close to certain people and they hurt or betrayed me, I was always told by someone, “Oh but he/she has a GOOD heart.” After being used by certain people, I was always told by someone, “Oh but he/she still has a GOOD heart.” Really? Honestly? I have even been told that because someone helps me out financially that labels them as having a GOOD heart. Really? What is in the heart normally comes trickling out eventually. If you have a bunch of mess stored up in your heart, it is going to come out. If you have selfishness in your heart, it is going to come out sooner or later. If you have envy or greed in your heart, it is bound to come pouring out one day. Some of us seriously need a “heart check.” Whatever is in your heart is going to show up on the outside. That is reality. When your heart is GOOD, you don’t hurt people. You don’t betray them. You don’t use them. You don’t leave people out in the cold or the pouring rain. A GOOD heart doesn’t do those horrific things. A GOOD heart portrays kindness and love at all times even when others don’t deserve it. A GOOD heart doesn’t manipulate you. A GOOD heart doesn’t help you financially just so it can say it did so. A GOOD heart helps you out because it is right to do so.

I had to check my own heart at one time because it was filled with a lot of stuff that wasn’t supposed to be there. But I had a walk-in appointment with the Best Heart Doctor there is and His name is JESUS.  Jeremiah 17:10 (NIV) tells us, “I, the LORD, search the heart and examine the mind, to reward each person according to their conduct, according to what their deeds deserve.” Jesus cleaned my heart out extensively. He even cleaned some people out of my life that I allowed to infect my heart. I didn’t want to have a DEFECTIVE heart; I wanted a GOOD heart. If goodness is on the inside of you, it will show brightly on the outside of you. God rewards you greatly for goodness. Have you had your heart checked lately?

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JUST KEEP LOOKING UP

Feeling weary or drained?
Just keep looking UP.

Feeling confused or mundane?
Just keep looking UP.

Feeling somewhat distressed?
Just keep looking UP.

Feeling like your life is in a mess?
Just keeping looking UP.

Feeling like you are all alone?
Just keep looking UP.

Feeling like everything is going wrong?
Just keep looking UP.

I know life gets tiring and rough,
But no matter what, just keep looking UP.

-S.L.M.