Think of two small children playing with a ball that belongs to neither one of them. Perhaps, they are at school and the ball belongs to the teacher. These two small children get a bit selfish and want the ball to themselves. So they begin to fight and argue over it, tugging the ball back and forth. Think of one of the small children simply getting tired and perhaps something else on the playground captures this child’s attention. This child lets the ball go and simply lets the other child have it. The bell rings signifying that recess is over, the teacher takes the ball, since it is hers, and puts it up. Think about this for a minute or two. Like, really think about it. The moral of this example is, “Never fight with someone over something that belongs to neither one of you.”
Now allow me to apply this story to…….yes, you guessed it……RELATIONSHIPS! From my own personal experience, I can relate to this. Relationships lead to marriages but a relationship is not a marriage. That person you are dating doesn’t belong to you until each one of you says, “I DO.” Until that takes place, a person can pretty much do what they want to do, when they want to do it, how they want to do it and with whom they want to do it with. Some just don’t take relationships seriously. So when the “sidepiece” or “the other man/woman” shows up out of nowhere, don’t be alarmed. In other words, don’t be so shocked if you find out that the person you love has been unfaithful. And don’t place yourself in the position of fighting over this individual. If this person truly loved you, “the other man/woman”, would have never come into the picture. And to be honest, you can’t really get mad at the “the other man/woman” because the person you are in a relationship with had to extend an invitation for the other person to come in. I have seen two men fight over a woman. I have seen two women fight over a man. The person that is in between the tugging has an ego big as the Empire State Building. The person that is in between the tugging may be mocking the entire situation knowing that he/she doesn’t belong to either one of the individuals that are fighting and arguing over him/her.
Don’t ever put yourself in that situation. If you do, you are setting yourself up to look like a fool. You were only in a relationship with this person; it wasn’t a marriage. If this person loved you….truly loves you….he/she will never put you in a position where you are hurt. If you are tugging back and forth with someone today over someone you love, just let it go. That person doesn’t belong to either one of you. The fight is useless. That person you are tugging back and forth over can basically do what he/she wants to do. That person is not your wife. That person is not your husband. Just let go. The stronger and wiser one will let go. Allow wisdom to capture your attention. If the other person you are tugging with keeps holding on, so be it. But you let go! True love doesn’t have to be fought for because true love wouldn’t put you in such of a predicament. Put that stress down, take a hold of peace by walking away. Have faith that God will give you better and stand on that faith. That is the GOOD fight you should participate in. “I have fought the GOOD fight. I have finished the race, I have kept the faith” (2 Timothy 4:7 NLT). – S.L.M.