When it comes to those that we love, we want to help in any way we can. We won’t to advise in good ways and lift up when necessary. But what happens when your hand is slapped away? What happens when the words you say seem to never be the right words? What happens when what you advise, although it is righteous, is always overlooked and consider unimportant? What happens when YOU seem to simply be not good enough? Many of us have probably dealt with these feelings. Yes, it hurts when you are left feeling this way. If you become consumed by this hurt, it has a tendency to drain you emotionally leaving you depressed, confused and frustrated. Well, when you have done all that you can in a good way and what you have done is not accepted or appreciated, just move on. God sees and He knows how unique you are. He sees and He knows how genuine your words and your heart may be. Unfortunately, many people won’t see it. Many people are simply not happy with themselves. They pretend to be but they are not. And if they are not happy with themselves, it shouldn’t be assumed that they will be happy with the helping hand of others. Believe or not, many people think they can do EVERYTHING on their own. They think they have ALL of the right answers in life. God knows they don’t. We know they don’t. But, they think they do. When these individuals mess up or hit a rough spot in life, we want to help but often times, they refuse help either out of embarrassment or simply because they think they can fix it on their own. They don’t realize that perhaps God placed you in their path for a reason. They don’t realize that you may want to help because it is in your heart to do so. And although it hurts, you have to simply let it be. Find joy in knowing that you have offered genuine help or to just be there. If they don’t want it, then it is THEIR loss….not yours. God sees your efforts and as a Christian, you have done your part. Don’t allow rejection to still your joy or embed depression into your life. Begin to focus on you and those who will embrace your kindness and your helping hand. There are people in this world who will really be appreciative of your presence in their life. I am a firm believer of that. Allow God’s love to continue to fill you so that you may be able to pour out to those who need it and to those who will wholeheartedly embrace it. “For it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose” (Philippians 2:13 NIV). – S.L.M.