Wouldn’t it be awesome if all women could work together to be successful? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if all women could be genuinely happy for one another? Well, take a look around us because it is not happening that way. I know that there are men in this world but today, discuss what is going on with the women. Women are fighting against each other constantly involving job titles, lifestyle, children and the big one – MEN! Women, working together positively, can be so powerful especially when working together for God. Many women have lost concept of that. Jill is jealous of Jane because she just got a promotion. Why? Jill should be genuinely happy for Jane because her blessing is coming. Job titles even pose an issue in the church between women! Mary is jealous and all uptight because Betty has a husband, nice car, a nice home and take trips a lot. As a result, she is very unkind towards Betty. Why? Mary is only seeing from the outside; she doesn’t know what Betty is going through on the inside.
Terri is jealous because Nicole’s kids wear the latest trends and are involved in many activities. Why? Terri doesn’t know what Nicole goes through with her kids. They may be so much trouble at home until she has to keep them involved in activities. Family members could be purchasing their clothing. Terri doesn’t know! If Terri would stop being so jealous, maybe she could connect with Nicole and get information on how to get her kids involved in activities as well. Oh and now with the big one – MEN. Teresa and Megan are friends. Teresa is throwing passes at Megan’s husband, knowing he is married. That is a big NO-NO! What can Teresa possible gain from sleeping with another woman’s husband. That man does not belong to her! God does not condone such behavior. When things go all wrong for her, she falls out with Megan. Why? God will not give Teresa somebody else’s husband! Teresa should pray, be patient and wait for God to deliver her a husband to call her own. And let’s not forget the petty things that go on in relationships. Kristy and Mike are dating. Mike goes out and pursues Tiffany or maybe Tiffany knows that Mike is dating Kristy. And “things” happen between Mike and Tiffany. But Mike goes back to Kristy and pretty much abandons Tiffany. Tiffany ends up angry and does things out of spite to hurt Kristy. Why? First of all, Mike isn’t obligated to any of these women because he hasn’t put a ring on either one of their fingers. And these women can’t be all that naïve. God gives warning before destruction. Mike had to have shown some sign of being a “duck.” If it walks like a duck, sounds like a duck then nine times out of ten, it is a duck!
I know of all of this may sound like some “kiddie” story but sad to say, this is how “kiddie” the animosity of women towards each another is. It’s time to stop all of this nonsense. It is time to help one another. Many women are going to struggles of different kinds but guess what? It is still a struggle. God gave us two hands – one to help ourselves with and the other hand to help other women (if they accept the help). Instead of putting each other down, women should be forming groups to help younger ladies in their walk of life. Women need to take the time to get it together and that time is now! It is time for all women to get focused, stop all of the nonsense, embrace wisdom and live a life of prosperity. If older generations of women are acting like this, what will become of the younger generation of women? “Older men are to be sober-minded, dignified, self-controlled, sound in faith, in love, and in steadfastness. Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled” (Titus 2:2-5). -S.L.M.
When I look back over my life, when I think of all of the mistakes, when I think of all of the failures….sometimes, I develop a huge regret. If only I had been wiser and more patient, perhaps I could be further in life rather than where I am now. If only I had believed actions and not lies, perhaps the man who is meant to be my husband would be here now. If only I would have allowed the church to get inside of me and not just attend, perhaps living life the right way would have grabbed a hold of me sooner. If only I had held tight to my moral values, my children would have the same father in the home right now. I think of this at times and I feel regret slip up on me. But then I can hear God telling me that there is a reason why I have gone through so much. There is a reason behind all of the mistakes and failures I have encountered in my past. There is a reason for me being a fool for men. All of it….every last bit of my past….there is a reason behind it. Then I can hear God bringing to my mind the power of my testimonies rather it is written or expressed verbally. I can hear Him reminding me that my testimonies may help another woman who has lost her way in life. It can help the woman who is being cheated on and emotionally or physically abused in a relationship or marriage. It can help the single parent who feels like she isn’t worthy because her kids don’t have the same father. I can hear Him telling me not to regret anything I have gone through because all that I went through has made me the strong woman I am today. Even today, I am still going through some things. But because I am stronger and wiser, I know how to handle things better. And soon, what I am going through now will be another testimony for somebody else. I can hear God telling me that now. God is simply amazing and if it were not for His loving mercy and grace, I wouldn’t be writing right now. Maybe I am one of the ones who is just meant go through so I can bring another one through. Yes I have been naïve, lied to, cheated on, backstabbed, physically/emotionally abused and heartbroken beyond what I thought could be repaired. Some of this was self-inflicted and some were beyond my control. BUT GOD! I don’t mind telling my testimonies. Just as long God gives me breath, I will continue to help others. The SAME GOD that brought me through, can bring anybody through. The SAME GOD who never left me will never leave another who is going through. The SAME GOD who turned many of my messes into victories can also turn somebody else’s mess into a victory. –S.L.M.
Yesterday (February 14), many celebrated their love. And that is a great thing. But what about the other 364 days of the year? Has love been shown in those days as well? In the bad times as well as the good times? Have you shown love to those other than your significant ones? These are questions that sometimes go unanswered because many of us know that we fail to do so. Valentine’s Day comes around and many of us go all out. After it is over, we are back to our hateful and bitter ways. Candy is eaten, teddy bears go in the closet, balloons begin to deflate and roses begin to die along with the love that we claim to have. Even engagement rings sometimes lose their meaning and are eventually thrown back into the hands of the giver. How sad. If Valentine’s Day is a day of love then we need to make every day Valentine’s Day not just on one day. If Valentine’s Day is a day of love, we should carry Valentine’s Day in our hearts every day no just on one day. If we are going all out on one day, maybe should go all out in love on every day…..all 365 days of the year. Valentine’s Day should not only be shown towards significant others but to everyone you come in contact with, if possible. Proverbs 3: 3-4 (NIV) tells us, “Let love and faithfulness never leave you; bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart. Then you will win favor and a good name in the sight of God and man.” Be Encouraged. – S.L.M.
You get your paycheck and the bills eat it up. Then more bills come up and you have no money left. The kids are misbehaving and being disobedient. The people on your job seem to be knit picking with you or putting more work on you than you are actually capable of. Illness has made its entrance into your life and the doctors can quite seem to get you all well. Trouble has made its way into your relationship or marriage and understanding seems to be lost. Friends have seemed to have turned into enemies. Nothing in your life seems to ever go right for more than one day. The STRUGGLE just doesn’t end, does it? You worry about. You cry about it. But the STRUGGLE is still there. Well, the bad news is that the STRUGGLE will always be around. The good news is that you don’t have to go through the STRUGGLE alone. Why? Because GOD IS! God is bigger than any struggle we face. Yes, we go through the fire but God gets in the fire with us. Look at Job in the Bible. Job lost his children, health, wealth, crops, and livestock. Even Job’s own wife told him to curse God. Job was in a definite struggle. Job felt that God was punishing him. Job told God, “I loathe my very life; therefore I will give free rein to my complaint and speak out in the bitterness of my soul. I say to God: Do not declare me guilty, but tell me what charges you have against me. Does it please you to oppress me, to spurn the work of your hands, while you smile on the plans of the wicked?” (Job 10:1-4). I think many of us have asked God the same thing. Sometimes, the struggle gets so hard that we all lose sight of God and we begin to attach ourselves to the problems that have entered into our lives. We attach to worry and fear. But you….me…..WE ALL HAVE TO REALIZE THAT GOD UNDERSTANDS. And God will never leave us. The next time you identify that you are going through a struggle, invite God into the struggle with you. And Lord knows….I will do the same. God is bigger than anything that we will ever face in this life. In Him, lies all that we need to overcome. God does the impossible in all of our lives but we must let Him in and let Him do what He does. God has a purpose for allowing us to go through struggles. We must look for Him in the midst of it all and trust Him. Be Encouraged. –S.L.M.
It is so easy to become distracted from trying to spend time with God at times, isn’t? In a life that causes us to get so caught up in being busy or in pleasing others, it is not that difficult to lose focus. But GOD is a PRIORITY and somehow we must make time to spend time with THE ONE who gives us LIFE. To be honest, the more time we spend with God, talking to Him, and listening to Him is less time spent on worry and stress or other unnecessary distractions. Let’s recall the story of Mary and Martha in Luke 10:38-42. Jesus and His disciples stopped by the house of Mary and Mary in Bethany. Martha became distracted with trying to prepare a meal for the guests while Mary sat at the feet of Jesus. Martha became quite frustrated and asked Jesus if He even cared that Martha had left her to prepare a meal alone. “But the Lord answered and said to her, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and bothered about so many things; but only one thing is necessary, for Mary has chosen the good part, which shall not be taken away from her” (Luke 10:41-42 NIV). This story should make all of us ask ourselves, “Do I have my priorities in order?” Are we really putting God first in our lives? Are we spending time with Him on a consistent basis? How is our prayer life? For in these things, we come to know God on a deeper and spiritual level. Many of us invest more of our time into people and things that really mean us no good or people or things that just don’t matter. We become so engulfed with pleasing others rather than pleasing God. Spending time with God does please Him. Putting Him first does please Him. When God is placed as a priority in our lives, things will fall into place. Our troubled days won’t be so troubled anymore. Our lonely nights won’t be some lonesome anymore. I know that many of us have families to take care of and guess what? It is a great thing to spend time with the Lord as a family and then to have your personal time that you spend with the Lord. Any which way it goes, God should be a priority in all of our lives. –S.L.M.
When it comes to those that we love, we want to help in any way we can. We won’t to advise in good ways and lift up when necessary. But what happens when your hand is slapped away? What happens when the words you say seem to never be the right words? What happens when what you advise, although it is righteous, is always overlooked and consider unimportant? What happens when YOU seem to simply be not good enough? Many of us have probably dealt with these feelings. Yes, it hurts when you are left feeling this way. If you become consumed by this hurt, it has a tendency to drain you emotionally leaving you depressed, confused and frustrated. Well, when you have done all that you can in a good way and what you have done is not accepted or appreciated, just move on. God sees and He knows how unique you are. He sees and He knows how genuine your words and your heart may be. Unfortunately, many people won’t see it. Many people are simply not happy with themselves. They pretend to be but they are not. And if they are not happy with themselves, it shouldn’t be assumed that they will be happy with the helping hand of others. Believe or not, many people think they can do EVERYTHING on their own. They think they have ALL of the right answers in life. God knows they don’t. We know they don’t. But, they think they do. When these individuals mess up or hit a rough spot in life, we want to help but often times, they refuse help either out of embarrassment or simply because they think they can fix it on their own. They don’t realize that perhaps God placed you in their path for a reason. They don’t realize that you may want to help because it is in your heart to do so. And although it hurts, you have to simply let it be. Find joy in knowing that you have offered genuine help or to just be there. If they don’t want it, then it is THEIR loss….not yours. God sees your efforts and as a Christian, you have done your part. Don’t allow rejection to still your joy or embed depression into your life. Begin to focus on you and those who will embrace your kindness and your helping hand. There are people in this world who will really be appreciative of your presence in their life. I am a firm believer of that. Allow God’s love to continue to fill you so that you may be able to pour out to those who need it and to those who will wholeheartedly embrace it. “For it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose” (Philippians 2:13 NIV). – S.L.M.