Many of us can hold on to much pain and anger. Although going through difficult times is a process, eventually we have to let it go before it destroys us. I hate to be the bearer of bad news but pain is a part of life. Hurt can really change a person but it is up to us as to how that hurt will change us. Either we can let it destroy us or build us. Yes, it is easier said than done. Yes, it is a process. But we have to let that pain go or it will devour us whole.
Some of us suffer from the death of a loved one that may have left us feeling alone. God can fill that void. It may take some time for us to embrace that but He can. It takes us drawing closer to Him so we can lose the pain, loneliness and anger. We still have a life to live. We still have to take care of ourselves and our children. We have to find a way to move on. We find that way in God. Death of a loved one can cut us deeply and many won’t understand how we feel. They empathize but they just don’t quite get it. God does. And He has what we need to get through it.
Then there are some of us who have been hurt by someone we love. We sit, depressed, eyes fills with tears, and lethargic while whoever that has caused the pain has gone on with their life. We are still holding to pain and they could care less. We are still trying to understand why we were hurt and they have moved passed it and could care less. We have to stop missing out on life because we want to find the answers for something that happened in the past. Face it….many people who cause us pain cannot even justify it so how can we even expect them to empathize with our pain? Yes, there are some who are truly apologetic and will walk through the process with you wholeheartedly even when they get frustrated. Then you have that select group that will just tell you to get over it and move on as if they have no respect for the extent your pain. Your pillow is soaked from tears every night while the one that hurt you is out laughing and talking with friends.
In times like these we must trust the process for it will empty us of all of the pain, the disappointments, the loneliness and anything else that tries to tear us down. We must look for God in the process. We must keep holding on to God’s hand in the process. We get stronger and wiser in the process. We grow in the process. We are never alone in the process because God is there and it is HE who will get us through the process. “That’s why we are not discouraged. No, even if outwardly we are wearing out, inwardly we are being renewed each and every day. This light, temporary nature of our suffering is producing for us an everlasting weight of glory, far beyond any comparison, because we do not look for things that can be seen but for things that cannot be seen. For things that can be seen are temporary, but things that cannot be seen are eternal” (2 Corinthians 4:16-18).