Those that are dear to us, we cherish them and love them. But what happens when those that are dear to us become cold and bitter? Out of nowhere? Because they are dear to us, it hurts us. It causes our emotions to awaken and cry out. Some people that are dear to us come to their senses that they have reacted out of character, ask for forgiveness and those actions are never seen again. But then there are those who don’t come to their senses about their actions. These are the ones who ask for forgiveness but still go back and do the same hurtful things to you again; therefore, they have not come to their senses. Instead, they blame their actions on something you did. Wow…it’s amazing how those who have wronged you on their own blame you for their wrongdoings. Certain wrong behaviors can cause one to react a certain way. Then you are blamed for a certain reaction in response to their certain wrongdoing! Losing your peace just isn’t worth it. It’s easy when those who aren’t close to us wrong us because walking away is no problem. Ignoring them is no problem. But when its someone close to us and someone we have to have dealings with, its not so easy. People who have a consistent character of wrongdoing are simply who they are. You can’t change them. Just accept who they are. This does not mean you should tolerate their wrongdoing but does mean you simply accept that you can’t change them, this is who they are, let it go, and let God. Unfortunately, at times, you have to walk away. Losing your peace simply isn’t worth it. Tolerating someone who blames you consistently for the hurtful things that they do isn’t worth losing your peace. Harsh words spewed into your ears in attempts to break your spirit isn’t worth losing your peace. Some people are better off in Gods hands. God has what it takes to deal with them; we dont. Dealing with such people will cripple our spirit and rob you of peace. Your peace isn’t worth it. Although it may be difficult, we must forgive. We can forgive and we can let go. God’s Word tells us, “Pay attention to yourselves! If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him, and if he sins against you seven times in the day, and turns to you seven times, saying, ‘I repent,’ you must forgive him” (Luke 17:3-4 ESV). Give that person to God, get out of the way, hold on to your peace and let God do the rest. Be blessed. – S.L.M.



Just tell Jesus about it! Tell Jesus what? About anything or anyone that has caused pain or grief in your life. About those who talk or laugh behind your back. People did it to Jesus, God’s son. So surely, we know that Jesus knows how you feel. So why not take it to THE MAN who knows and who can do something about it? Why not take it to THE MAN who will comfort you and not mock you? Why not take it to THE MAN who will “fix” it and not destroy it even more? Why not take it to THE MAN whom you can confide in and not worry about the things you have disclosed be put on display for mockery? Tell Him! Tell Him all about it and watch how He turns things around in your life. And don’t stop there! Tell Jesus about that health issue you are struggling with. About that job you desire. About that home/car you need. About that husband/wife you are praying for. He knows the desires of our hearts so why not just speak it out to Him. Tell Him! And don’t stop there! Tell Him of His Goodness. Thank Him in advance for what He is about to do in your life. Praise Him in the midst of even the worst times. Praise Him even when life is good. He is worthy of all praises so why not let Him know? Tell Him! And don’t stop there! KEEP TELLING HIM! TELL HIM EVERYTHING! HE IS! “O taste and see that the LORD is good; how blessed is the man who takes refuge in Him!” (Psalms 34:8). – S.L.M.

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Like birds of a feather, REAL FAMILY sticks together. Yes, I so believe that is true! During the good times, they stick together. During the bad or sad times, they stick together. To show positive support to one another, they stick together. And God – He is their foundation. But when does the meaning of REAL FAMILY go wrong? Well, allow me to break it down. Let’s say cousin Jack has a problem with Mike – someone who isn’t in the family. This issue should involve only Jack and Mike but because Jack isn’t feeling Mike, the WHOLE FAMILY isn’t feeling Mike, either. This is the meaning of REAL FAMILY gone wrong. Or you have Sally – a family member , who is in disagreement with Sue – another family member, so the family divides to take sides. This results in one side of the family not speaking to the other side of the family.  This is the meaning of REAL FAMILY gone wrong. REAL FAMILY supports each other in POSITIVE ways not the negative ways. REAL FAMILY shows maturity and wisdom and does not condone immaturity and ignorance.

We are all so quick to claim to be a REAL FAMILY but then turn around and lash out to other family members or somebody on the outside because someone on the inside has an issue with that person. REAL FAMILY chooses to keep the peace and does not indulge in chaos or slander. The elders in families are normally the ones that the younger members look up to. It’s sad to say but in the world in which we live in now some of the elders are initiating chaos and slander. So of course, the younger ones will follow. This is the meaning of REAL FAMILY gone wrong. I look up to elders in families who keep the peace, who teach the younger members the right way and the better way to do everything. It is sickening to see families hover together to slander, gossip and fight with others. They do this with each other as well as those on the outside.

This message may offend someone or some people but it’s the truth so I will speak it. Proverbs 12:7 tells all of us, “The wicked are overthrown and are no more, but the house of the righteous stands firm.” REAL FAMILY don’t indulge in MESS. REAL FAMILY indulges in righteousness. They don’t look down on other family members nor others who are on the outside. REAL FAMILY possesses a unique love – a love that allows them to pour  inside and to the outside. That love has a mixture of kindness and respect. That kindness and respect is shown inside the family and outside of the family. If that family is pouring out bitterness to others on the outside, something is wrong! I realized that no family is perfect and never will be but REAL FAMILY should do their best in keeping peace within their family as well as pouring out peace to others outside of the family.  And at times, we will find that others on the outside can very well become true friends; and through love, these true friends become family. – S.L.M.


The Tortoise and the Hare

The Struggling Christian


Isaiah 40:31: “But they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint.”

I used to think that I had to have it all together as soon as possible. My fear was ending up like the Israelites wandering for 40 years only to never reach the Promised Land. I had a list of goals and what I thought I had to do to achieve them. I want to be married so I decided I needed to learn how to be a wife, but no matter how many recipes I mastered, how tidy my home was, or how much I read Proverbs 31 I still found myself single. As a matter of fact, I haven’t been in a relationship in FOUR YEARS. This frustrated me because here I am doing what I…

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God: Bae or Sidepiece?

The Struggling Christian

A friend of mine recently wrote two blog posts that have since gone on to be very successful. I encourage you to take a look here. The topic of these posts is about being the side chick or as I refer to it the sidepiece (to avoid gender). For those of you who are unfamiliar with what a sidepiece is, it is basically the other woman/man or one who issues all the benefits but receives no title (i.e. girl/boyfriend, fiancé(e), wife/ husband). Anyone can be a sidepiece. There are men out there who give their all to women but the love is not reciprocated.

This made me think about my relationship with God. Was I treating God like “bae”, which stands for “before anyone else”, or was He becoming my sidepiece? You see God doesn’t change, we do. He is always faithful, never breaking any of His promises to…

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Have you ever been linked up with someone that you thought was the kindest person that you had ever met? But then you find out differently? If you ever want to find out the true colors of someone, allow the pressure to hit. When the pressure hits, you will find out who you are really dealing with. The mask falls off when the pressure hits. A person can hide who they really are only for so long. Eventually, true colors always come shining through. And when that person shows you who they really are, believe just that – that is who they really are. I can’t change that and neither can you. God can but we can’t. True colors can go two ways. One way involves those who we think are the best thing that ever happened to us; but pressure hits, the mask falls off and we find out that they were the worst thing that could have ever happened to us. The other way involves those who we think may not have our best interest in heart yet they stick by us; pressure hits, no mask falls off and we find out they do have our best interests in heart. How can we tell which one is taking place in our lives? Glad you asked. I have one GREAT answer – GOD. Luke 8:17 (NIV) tells us, “For there is nothing hidden that will not be disclosed, and nothing concealed that will not be known or brought out into the open.” The wisdom and knowledge to know which one is occurring in your life comes from God. He will reveal everything to us. We don’t have to pick or dig for information; God will reveal the true colors in due time. It’s hurtful when you find out that someone you thought was FOR you is truly AGAINST you. It’s also devastating to know that you doubted someone who is FOR you when you thought that they were AGAINST you. When we doubt others, we mostly do so out of protection because we have been hurt before and that hurt allows us to believe that others (who may be for us) is out to cause us pain as well. Wow….life requires us to have an abundance of knowledge and wisdom. We gain that abundance by drawing closer to God on a consistent basis. His Word is an excellent tool for this. His Word even teaches us how to respond when true colors of people come shining through. I don’t know about you but I worked very hard to get to where I am today and I am very protective of my life right now and forevermore. I am cautious of anything or anybody that draws near. I have to pray to God continuously to show and reveal things to me. And might I say, God is in the business of revealing on a quick basis at times. I don’t tell you this from what I think but what I know. Be Blessed. –S.L.M.

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There are times when you question,

“Why can’t we all just get along?”

You wonder why instead of being treated right,

Many treat you downright wrong.

But the God in you helps you to endure

As enemies form weapons against you.

Even on those bad days you encounter,

You keep standing on God’s Word that is true.

Enemies work day and night on weapons –

Ones that they think will rip your life apart.

Enemies faithfully worship their weapons –

Ones that they think will completely break your heart.

But these enemies fail to realize two things –


God’s power and His Love surrounds both you and your life,

And the enemies can’t defeat you no matter what they say or do.

You have the wisdom to place the enemies in God’s Hands,

For God has to power to erase your name from their hit roster.

God will cause you to shine in the midst of the plots of your enemies,


Written By Stacy L. Montgomery



When God gets ready to transition you to better things in your life, everybody and everything can’t go.  Your character begins to change. Bitterness and anger dismantles themselves from you. You change for the better. You will realize that as you change for the better; some people will change for the worse. God shows you who is for you and who is against you. People will mock you and call you a hypocrite. These people are comfortable in mess but when God says its time for you to move away from the mess, He starts stripping people and things away from you. When He begins to do this, don’t chase after it; keep moving forward. Sometimes you have got to just leave people in the mess. Keep walking forward. God may start allowing unexpected pain in your life, not to tear you down, but to build you up for what He has for you. That pain will open your eyes to reality. That pain will birth wisdom. That pain will move you. The devil may come to draw you deeper in distress but look for God’s hand añd keep moving forward. Don’t get content in the distress; you will get too comfortable. You will end up in mess and miss out on your blessings. In the transition, God will place people in your life who are true. The spiritual eye will see this. These are the ones who don’t give up on you no matter how weàry you become. They don’t tear you down; but they build you up. They do all that they can to pull you OUT of the mess and not push you further IN it. And in the transition, you gain a new strength in God. You draw closer to Him. And you leave all of that other stuff that adds no measure to you behind. You can’t make a better transition when one foot is content in mess and the other foot struggles to do right. Look for God’s hand, grab a hold to it and make the transition to do better. Deuteronomy 7:22: “The Lord your God will drive out those nations before you, little by little. You will not be allowed to eliminate them all at once, or the wild animals will multiply around you” (NIV). Be blessed.  -S.L.M.



Pain. It hurts. It breaks you down. It makes you separate yourself. It makes you feel worthless and hopeless. But pain is necessary for our growth. In 2015, I now realize this. Yes, it hurts when you experience pain or brokenness. But, pain can lead to great joys when we make the choice to take that pain to the Lord. Now me? I don’t like pain. I don’t like to be hurt. I can’t stand it. In the past, I let pain take over my life. I let pain push me off of my mountaintop of joy down into a valley of depression. So I don’t speak what I think; I speak what I know. And what I know is that God allows pain to help us grow, to strengthen our faith and draws us closer to Him. Now sometimes we cause our own pain but even then, God never leaves us. He is a Healer. He is Joy. He is Comfort. The best medication for pain is “giving it all to God.” Just give it all to Him. Cry out to Him. Seek Him. And He will surely hear your cry. That situation that is so difficult and distressing…..give it to Him. That person who has hurt you so badly…..give that person to Him. Those people who wear the title of “enemies”….give them to Him. Your sickness…..give it to Him. Your disappointments, your broken heart and the rejection…..give it all to Him. When we give it to Him, we have to let go and grab onto to the faith that God is going to make it better. That pain makes us stronger later on. No, it doesn’t feel like it when you are going through because believe me, I am there right now! But we have to possess the faith that God will heal us and we will make us whole again. Psalm 147:3-5, “He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds. He counts the stars and names each one. Our Lord is great and very powerful. There is no limit to what he knows.”  -S.L.M