Sometimes, we can overwhelm ourselves by being busy with the things we should and need to be doing. But then there are those times that we wear ourselves extra thin by being concerned with matters that don’t concern us or doing things that we KNOW others should be doing. It is enough stretching your body to do all the things that are in your lane. If not careful, you become a busybody when you are doing things in your lane and lanes two, three, and four. Yes, it is good to lend a helping hand to others but sometimes when you are lending a helping hand, you may turn around and see that you are the ONLY hand! Yes, some will take advantage of your kindness. It is the world we live in. If you are “busy-bodying” in other lanes, your lane may even end up being neglected or you could really exhaust yourself. Your schedule will become frenzied, the people you love and your health may suffer as a result of your “busy-bodying” in other lanes. We have to learn to be busy in a healthy way; the Bible shows us how to do so. We have to learn to tend to our own affairs or duties and not take on those that are assigned to others. We must do what we can in our lanes and rest awhile. We end up breaking our backs, arms and legs doing for others even though they probably wouldn’t lend a finger to do for us. Sometimes, we just take on too much and before long, our health starts to go downhill. Then we stand feebly, wondering why. Go back to The Word; even Jesus knew when to rest. I, myself, am still learning to rest and to balance my daily schedule in a healthy manner. We must all do this. If we pray for God’s Wisdom in this area of our lives, we can prevent the heavy weight of becoming overwhelmed. “Then, because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat,1 he said to them, “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest” Mark 6:31 (NIV). –S.L.M.
At some point in a relationship, the “itch” will transpire. What is the “itch”? The “itch” is the desire to settle down with one person and one person only. The “itch” is the desire to come together as “one” with a person and share a life together. What causes the “itch”? The itch can be caused from selfish desires or it can be caused from maturity. When the desire is selfish, it is all about YOU. You don’t care how another person feels and you just want it to happen because YOU want it to happen. Something that is forced is bound to be under pressure. And human nature rejects a lot of pressure. This is a classic example of an “itch” going wrong. When the desire stems from maturity, it is not about just YOU; it is about the BOTH of you. Maturity causes you to look at things in a more spiritual and deep aspect. Maturity causes you to look for God in your mate and focus on the strength of the LOVE the two of you share. Maturity causes you to focus on how the both of you can build TOGETHER instead of being APART. The one thing about the “itch” I have come to realize is that the best “touch” for it is God’s Hand. Because only God can deliver the RIGHT ONE to you to scratch that “itch.” When the desire to settle down is upon you, it is important that your mate has that desire, too. Many blame the fear of settling down on the “GAME.” I am so sick of hearing that. It is NOT the game that causes fear; it is the MINDSET of the individual. The GAME is simply a bunch of plays where you win or lose and the results cause attention from the crowd. Many crave attention and love it when they get it regardless if it is the right way or wrong way. That is immaturity. A man/woman caught up in the world are never truly satisfied and can never give another the world. It’s hurtful to say but it’s true and I know it is displeasing to God. Allowing God’s Hand to work in your life guides you away from immaturity and yokes you with maturity. God knows your heart and what you need or desire. Allow God’s Hand to keep you away from the WRONG ONE who will irritate the “itch” and deliver to you the RIGHT ONE who will scratch the “itch” willingly and faithfully. -S.L.M
We all go through those moments in life where we feel like we have been cursed. One bad thing happens after another. Your heart is broken by others time and time again. You confront disappointment after disappointment. I, for one, would always blurt out, “I feel like I have been cursed!” But as I sit here right now, I look back over every bad thing, every heartbreak, and every disappointment and I understand that some things were self-inflicted but others involved God preparing me for where He is taking me. I still get a little weary. I still get a little fearful. I still get a little confused. But FAITH won’t let me fall too far into these despairing holes. I had to change my way of thinking. I had to realize that good can come out of the bad. I had to realize that each heartbreak and disappointment made me stronger definitely wiser. And today, all of these things are still making me stronger and wiser. I know that wherever God is taking me, I will need strength and wisdom. God is preparing me. When I set my focus on that, I don’t dwell so much on the difficulties. I know that if no one else in this world knows who I really am, God does. God knows that I am good person. God loves me and shows it every day by waking me up each morning. God knows that I do my best each and every day to stay on the right path for I know about the dangers of being on the wrong path. God knows my heart and when harm comes to it, He takes care of it. I had to change saying that “I am cursed” to “I am blessed.” I am not perfect but I am on the right path in life holding on to my faith in God. All that I go through is God’s will and is preparing me for great things ahead. I am blessed. “But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord whose confidence is in him. They will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit” (Jeremiah 17:7-8 NIV). –S.L.M.
The one relationship that matters most to me is my relationship with the Lord. If I am not right with Him, none of the other relationships in my life will function correctly. None of the other relationships in life will have a sweet flavor. God is The God of understanding. The God of Wisdom. The God of Truth. The God of Love. All relationships must possess understanding, wisdom, and truth and love to be a success. Without these components, relationships really don’t have a chance. Today, I focus more on drawing closer to the Lord. He is my backbone. He never lets me down. His promises carry me day by day. God gives me understanding about people and things. He pours the wisdom of knowing what to do, when to do it and how to do it…..and……knowing what to say, when to say it and how to say it. He helps me to walk in truth because lies get us know where in life. And love…..ah, yes….God is love. When I carry this over to my earthly relationships, it helps me stand against anything that the enemy may throw my way. The relationship we have with God helps us to have a better relationship with others. The more we fall in love with God, the more we can learn to love others in spite of indifferences. If a relationship is simply not meant for you here on earth, God will give you that clarity through your relationship with Him. If you want to simply have a better relationship with others on earth, start by building a relationship with the Lord. That is the relationship that matters most. – S.L.M.
In this world, you may find yourself struggling to do good but doing good is best. Some days it will be easy; other days it won’t be so easy. You may come across difficult people. You may find yourself in problematic situations. You may find yourself wanting to retaliate or wanting to revenge. But you must continue to do good. Doing good in spite of any turmoil is a sign of courage, not weakness. Good overcomes evil. Sometimes, you may have to separate yourself. But if that is what it takes to keep your goodness, then do it. Others may view your separation as being lame and will condemn or mock you, but their view is not important; God’s view of you is. When you “run” around with dogs, you begin to act like one and you may end up with fleas so protect your goodness by staying on the porch! Protect your eyes by watching what you take in. Protect your ears by being careful of the things and people you listen to. Both the ears and eyes take in things and carry it to your mind. The mind will carry it to your actions. And sometimes, the mind will carry things to your heart. And we all know what is in the heart will eventually come out so we must make sure that what we take in is GOOD. Many are not aware of how their “surroundings” affect them but the truth is – it does. Your surroundings can infect your goodness with depravity. Your goodness reflects God so allow it to shine to others. “You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven” (Matthew 5:14-16 ESV). – Written By Stacy L. Montgomery
Many often wait for the perfect one to come into their lives. Well, I don’t mean to burst your bubble but keep waiting. No one is perfect. We all have our flaws. You will know that you have chosen the right one when you choose to look at the heart. Outside beauty and assets may be pleasing to the eye but what is in the heart is what matters. You will know what is in the heart when those really rough times hit. You will know when frustration arises. When you are near to God, He will show you what is in a person’s heart. The heart is a place where love should dwell; not bitterness, anger, jealousy or hatred. When love dwells in the heart, you may want to give up but love makes you hold on. You may want to be down, but love will keep you high. You may be hurt by others but love will overpower that pain and cause you still do good to others. What is in the heart is what matters. If God blesses you with someone who has a beautiful heart, and who has true love in their heart, value that person and hold on to that person. People with beautiful hearts are spiritual beings. And these people don’t come around too often. -S.L.M.