I really think relationships and marriages are a blessing….at least they can be. But if you take a look around you, relationships and marriages are being destroyed by temptation and lack of respect. Respect towards one’s relationship or marriage has been lost and it is upsetting. Attraction is something that really can’t be prevented and it gets even more difficult when one is attracted to someone who belongs to another. That is where RESPECT needs to come in. The one (on the outside) that is doing the tempting lacks RESPECT and the one (in a relationship/marriage) who falls into temptation lacks RESPECT. This is what destroys relationships and marriages. If one is not happy in a relationship or marriage, then show respect by leaving. If one feels tempted to break up someone’s relationship or marriage, gain some wisdom by picking up a Bible and reading it. Many people in the world make a mockery of this type of living. It’s funny to them. And it’s the “going” thing right now. But it isn’t funny to God. It isn’t funny to the ones who are a victim of it and who try to base their relationships and marriages on Christian values. I can only imagine how this breaks God’s heart to see His children acting in such a disrespectful way. The only way to fight being tempted is to keep God first in your life and seek Him at all times and to have RESPECT towards the one you are with AT ALL TIMES. When we give in to temptation, bad consequences follow. Then people sit back and wonder why bad things are happening to them. Well, think back to what you did or what you said that put yourself in this predicament. One has no one to blame but himself or herself. It’s funny while one is doing wrong but when the consequences surface up, it is not so funny then. We are all adults and know right from wrong. We know disrespect versus respect. And we all know what PLEASES GOD and what DISPLEASES GOD. When we sow seeds of disrespect, we reap the same. It may not be tomorrow, next week, next month or next year but the harvest will come. –S.L.M.
I Peter 4:8 “Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins.”
There are many young ladies and men who are going through a tough time with temptation. Many seek attention or the attention comes towards them on its own very aggressively. Rather you or young or old, it happens that way. Some of us who have gone through the fire should express to these young ladies and men that they are worth waiting for. There is a reason why virginity should be sealed until marriage and why one should wait on God’s timing for the right one. There is the stress of dealing promiscuity, possibility of STD’s, unwanted pregnancy, children having different mothers and fathers, lack of commitment, insecurity stemming from a partner’s past, divorce, much drama and much heartache. Temptation can be difficult for the young generation as well as the old generation. God’s help is a necessity. It is a necessity because the “sweet lies” are so pleasing to the ear. The “sweet lies” embeds in thoughts and before long, they trickle to the heart which makes it hard to fight temptation or to let go of what one holds on to. Media doesn’t make it any better because all that is trending has to do with the latest sexy fashions, money, sex/porn and every other thing that can consume one’s mind in an addictive way. Many of us know the detriment resulting when the line is crossed without God’s consent. We know the temptation, the pain and the consequences. If you come across someone, young or old, who haven’t crossed that line yet, encourage them and pray for them. The world needs more of that. Be Blessed. – S.L.M.
I come across many that say, “I love you.” I am at a point in my life now where I take this expression very seriously. This phrase represents Our Father up above. It doesn’t matter if it is pertaining to a marriage, a relationship or a friendship. We should love with Our Father’s Love. So, I take it seriously. Today, people are passing this phrase out like it’s free candy. Today, people are tossing this phrase around like it’s a useless tool of some sort. Yesterday, you say you love me but today you don’t speak to me. Love doesn’t do that. Last week, we were the best of friends but this week I find out you are talking badly about me. Love doesn’t do that. Last year, I confided in you with hurtful secrets just to vent and this year, you expose all that I ever said to you out of spite. Love doesn’t do that. These are classic examples of how people abuse love. They do wrong but because LOVE is good, they expect “I Love You” to make it all better. Then, they turn around and do wrong again and again. Are there any mature people in the House of Love on today? Are there any mature people who knows what the real meaning of love is? Are there any mature people who CAN REPRESENT what love really means? When we love others, we are to love them with the Love of God. Now, that is something beautiful. Something precious and priceless. Wouldn’t it be something if we all could that? Wouldn’t it? -S.L.M.
A person can disappoint you so many times until you lose respect for them. A person can lie to you only so many times before you begin to lose respect. Lies and disappointments causes pain and that pain causes you to lose ALL respect. Once that respect is gone, it is hard to regain; at times, it cannot be regained. Respect follows closely with your reputation. If your reputation is filled with lies and manipulation then guess what? It won’t be long before your true character is revealed. It won’t be long before others lose respect for you. If your reputation is filled with disappointing others, it won’t be long before others lose respect for both your words and actions. When I speak of disappointment, I am referring to making false promises or having inconsistent or unruly behavior that causes others emotional harm. We all want to be respected. It is hard to give respect to others when they treat us disrespectfully. In spite of, we must learn to pray for them. In cases like this, yes, we have lost respect for their lies, their disappointments, and their unruly or inconsistent behavior. We should lose respect for all of this because none of it is good and none of it adds measure in your life nor that person’s life. But we must still have respect for that person as an individual and as one of God’s children. Yes, it is complicated but it is God’s way. Don’t react harshly towards the individual. We always have the option to kindly dismiss ourselves from anything or anyone who brings us discomfort. We live in a world where people will treat us unkind and they will come off as disrespectful but they don’t see it. We do…and we feel it. We must seek Godly guidance in order to not become a victim of that behavior. Think of it like this…..we, as God’s children, do awful things that probably come off as disrespectful to God but He loves us any way. He still shows us mercy and grace. He still has respect for us. We must have a character like Our Father. Respect the person but not the foolishness. – S.L.M.