I think the worst type of relationship you can have is one that is rooted in selfishness. Relationships has its problems; none are perfect. One thing that truly keeps a relationship afloat is letting go of selfishness. How can two people expect greatness when one or both of them are focused on self? If this is the case, that person should be in a relationship with themselves. Selfishness is a killer! A selfish individual never sees their wrongdoing and everything has to be their way or no way. They constantly place themselves above their mate. This is ridiculous! In a relationship or marriage, it’s not all about one person!! Partners should learn to be on the same level. This involves communication and understanding. It involves sharing and caring. It involves “WE” instead of “I”. A successful relationship takes some time and true effort. It also takes two mature people who are willing to work together. Selfishness snatches happiness away from the relationship because selfish people have too much pride and are always wanting more. If you are experiencing selfishness today, pray and ask God to show you how and in what areas you possess selfishness. Ask God and your partner forgiveness. Then rely on God to help you become the person you need to be in your relationship. He is the best route out of the tunnel of selfishness. -S.L.M.
On the topic of RELATIONSHIPS….did you carefully check the baggage of your mate before allowing that person in your world? I really can’t sit here and tell you that NO ONE HAS BAGGAGE because in some shape, form or fashion, everybody has something that they bring into new relationships. But what happens when baggage is simply too much? You may wonder what baggage I am referring to. I am referring to past or current habits that the person has that would pose as no measure to your relationship. Perhaps they possess a habit of being a liar, a cheater, or an abuser. Perhaps they have the “ex” syndrome which means that your relationship will always contain THREE people instead of TWO resulting in conversations and meetings not always involving “just the kids.” Perhaps their spiritual life is out of whack. They know God but really don’t acknowledge Him nor put Him first. Many of us see this baggage right off the bat BUT STILL want to pick up that person along with their baggage and fit them into our lives. This causes much stress upon ourselves. We are constantly trying to fit that person in when reality clearly shows us THAT IT WON’T WORK. We can fake the misfortune only for so long but THE TRUTH will always show its face. Check the baggage of the person you are pursuing! We all need to put God into play at this. God will show us who should be in our lives and who shouldn’t be. Believe it or not, some people come into our lives to take us all of the way down; others may come to bring us up as high as we can possibly go. There may be some people that we are meant to come into our lives to inspire them. We will not know this until we seek God’s Wisdom and Direction. God will tell us, “I will give you strength through this” or He will tell us, “No, this is too much for you.” Some baggage that people possess is simply too much for us. It is baggage that stays full at all times with the zippers about to pop open! We have got to look for God for everything especially the right mate. If we don’t, we will end up with extra baggage that not even an airport can hold!
Our little ears often stay tuned up to those things that we shouldn’t be taking in. Our little ears tend to take in too much negativity, doubt, fear, rejection and hurt. We all have been there. And if you haven’t been there, thank the Lord that you haven’t experienced it yet. At some point, I think our ears become stopped up from all of the “bad” stuff. I think God says, “Okay, enough is enough.” I think this is the time that we must allow God to clean our ears out the wax of negativity, doubt, fear, rejection and hurt. We must allow God to unblock that nasty stuff so that we can begin to hear the clean stuff that includes His Voice. Our little ears need to welcome in positivity, faith, courage, acceptance and joy. – S.L.M.
We all have a past…all of us. And for many, it wasn’t a good one. Yes, we know we shouldn’t look back but at times you may tend to take a glimpse…only to see how far you have come. But only allow it to be a glimpse. There is a reason why your past didn’t make it to your present but it did make you become the person you are in the present (hopefully it’s a better you). Be mindful, too, of the things and people that entice you to go back. Be mindful of the tactics that may play on your emotions, make you feel guilty or make you feel that you are missing out. After all, time proved that you did make mistakes and choose bad decisions. So why go back? Why be enticed? When you recognize your mistakes of the past, accept them. Forgive yourself and move on to better things. If your resources to make it better is slim to none, look to God and mix it with faith. Let go of the baggage of the past. It will do nothing but weigh you down in the present. The past can do two things: tear down your future or build your future up. Which will you choose? -S.L.M.
Life can throw some really hard hits. I remember just dodging them or ducking so they wouldn’t hit me. And when they did, I just cringed with fear and pain. This was only just a short while ago. A person can only take so much. I could only take so much. A person gets tired. I got tired. I use to take that “putting on the whole armor of God” thing very lightly. After life hit me too many times with failure after failure, with depression, with bitterness and anger, with low self-esteem, with some of every rotten thing you can possible think of, I started to get in THE WORD and read. THE WORD, itself, is THE ARMOR OF GOD. This is exactly what we need to stand up against the hits that life throws at us. We can say “It is the devil” but some of those hits are also self–inflicted hits. I can remember when I use to bring about “self-inflicted” upon myself. What kind of immature mindset did I have! BUT GOD! People, life will not always be easy. The hits will come. The struggle will come. Equip yourself at all times with the Word of God. When those hits come, you will be able to stand strong and firm. I will be able to stand strong and firm. That armor will protect you against it all. You may feel a sting or some kind of pain, you may kind of lose balance just a little, but you will not fall….YOU WILL STAND…AND YOU WILL STAND STRONG!! Be Blessed. –S.L.M.
Other people DO NOT set limits for your life; YOU set the limits for your life. It DOES NOT matter what others believe or don’t believe about you. Their beliefs or disbeliefs should not keep you from believing that you can’t accomplish your goals or dreams. If God has placed a promise in your heart, it is not up to OTHER PEOPLE to bring it to pass; it’s up to YOU! You DON’T NEED validation from anyone else! Follow the voice of God for YOURSELF and allow ONLY HIM to order your steps! (Paraphrased from “You Set the Limits” by Joel Osteen)
Lord, thank You for seeing me in a way that some others may never will see me. Thank You for understanding me while I stand misunderstand by some others. Thank You for lifting me up while some others put me down. Thank You for forgiving me and throwing my sins away while some others hold grudges against me and continue to see my flaws. Thank You for giving me all of the good and positive reasons to keep trudging forward in life while some others giving me all of the bad and negative so that I can stop. Thank You for helping me to stay focused on you and staying out of the “trap” of what the world thinks and sees. Thank You for all of Your Love, Your Comfort, and Your Support. Lord, I just thank You for Your Everything. AMEN -S.L.M.